LOVE LANGUAGE
I remembered the first time I asked someone few years ago what my love language was and the person replied “Yoruba” I laughed 🤣🤣🤣! I dint know whether to laugh or cry but I had tears in my eyes. Maybe because the person was from the South West 😂😂.
Yeye sombori. Funny enough, I love hearing the Yoruba language. It is sexy to my ear.
But Oluwaaaaa… Who doesn’t know the meaning of “love language?”
First time I read Gary Chapman’s and Ross Campbell book on “Five Love Languages”, I couldn’t even tell what my love language was for a start. Meanwhile, I already gained an understanding.
If I buy a book or wrist watch and give you, whether you ask or not, I am telling you in my own unique language that “I, Maxwell Ikechukwu, love and cherish you.”
It is that simple. It is not a feeling that I can fake. I don’t buy books for random people, I even rarely lend out my books. I’m such a book hoarder. I put a lot of thought into the books I buy, I go lenghts to find them and I think of you throughout the entire process. Who are you? What sort of personality do you have? What is your taste? Will this sing and be special to you? And most importantly, will you see my feelings through this gift?
It is not a random act, it is not friendship. I can shake your hand or like your posts and that’s being friendly. I can send you data or airtime and that’s enough for being friends. I can call you, or text you. That’s what friends do. Buying a book or wrist watch is something more to me. It is something I enjoy doing, and it feels more special when I do it for someone I hold in that special place where life begins and ends. My heart.
Yes, I know you’re of the opinion that love languages are meant to be seen from the receiver’s perspective.
You feel this causes issues most times in relationships. Whereby, you love your partner. To you, you show it strongly but she doesn’t feel it because that’s not how she wants to be loved.
For example, you may give her books but her love language is quality time.
So basically, you think your love language should be what you want to receive from a love interest. If it’s books, that’s fine but what you give a person should be dependent on what she\he likes.
For me, I think love languages should not just necessarily be seen from the eyes of the receiver. We all have a way we speak and communicate love and affection.
So let’s put in core perspective this way… I may do the receiver’s bidding to show my love, but the receiver has to know my love language to know when I’m being truly honest.
Say for example: Your love language is physical touch or gift, but to another person that’s something he\she can do easily. They can give anyone gift, can touch anyone and have coitus randomly. You have to know the person’s love language, to know when he\she is really placing you on a special seat. When you are really the one to his\her heart.
Imagine a good, sweet, responsible and intelligent man who’s love language is act of service or quality time making you dinner with a sumptous plate of Beans and Plantain. But you are thinking, what kind of man is this? Someone that discovered KFC in the kitchen, alongside ingredient and spices for the one he truly loves. Even if that’s the only thing he knows how to cook well. You can’t see that he’s worshipping you and treating you like a Queen, simply because that’s not your expected love language of him.
Most people don’t have insight to these things. Or they do and just enjoy pretending to be ignorant.
Till date, books or wrist watch are the best thing anyone will give me. You can’t guess how big my smiles will be, you’d need to see it for yourself to tell. Books are always perfect.
Meanwhile, when will somebody’s daughter start suffocating me with handsomeness that’s illegal sef? I don’t mind telling you where I’m from, just so you know say my mama ovaries dey produce. Someone needs to pay my groom price, and it’s not even expensive 😁😁😁.
Comrade, don’t think I’m speaking in tongues biko 😆😆😆.
What’s your love language? Flaunt it with style. Cheers to an amazing 2022! Greater things awaits you 💚💚💚
Yours Affectionately,
Maxwell Ikechukwu.
January 13th, 2022.
